The Union of Fashion Bloggers

By Thursday, August 9, 2012 4 Permalink

I’ve been feeling fairly edgy lately – between worrying about finances, checking things off my moving list, and looking for job prospects in  Savannah, I’ve been over-thinking non-stop. And then there’s Style and Cheek’s progress… or lack thereof. I have a view of what I want my blog life to be like and unfortunately that vision is not matching the reality. I’m frustrated and over-analyzing the blogging world. I know that now is not the time for a pity party because as Dan says I need to remember that I’m still new.

Which brings me to my gripe: what is with bigger style bloggers not appreciating their blogger fans as much as their regular fans? To the point where it’s not even wanted. Am I not allowed to be a fan of someone else’s blog if I have a blog too?  At times it feels like trying to give my Dad love but he just assumes I’m being sweet because I want something from him.

Here are my theories on why the “big” bloggers give the small fry the side-eye of “what do you want?” –

They’re just too busy: They’re receiving so many emails, tweets, shares, etc., that they don’t have time to respond to everything. The bigger and more successful your blog, the less time you have to spend on responding to fan mail. I can see how it could be overwhelming. But still, some bloggers, some HUGE bloggers, do make time and are very gracious while others…well they ain’t got no time to be gracious when they are busy being fabulous.

Lafayette gif

They think you’re creepy because you’ve liked way too many of their posts but you’re not friends: Oops. Guilty. I love blogs. With a big L to the O to the V and E. Before I became a blogger I bookmarked all my favorites and would go to them on a daily basis. I still pretty much do this except now my list is significantly longer and I found Bloglovin’ which keeps track of unread posts (something my brain can’t really keep up with).

Girls gif

They think you’re trying to get a jump off their success: This is the biggest pisser-offer of my theories. I am a blogger, yes. If I become as successful as you then that would be awesome. BUT I am not trying to leech off you. I am just a really big fan and want to express my in-aweness of your blog or share your great post with others because it’s that good. You’re welcome.

I think I mostly buy into this last one.  I’ve never been a fan of competition, and the over-protectiveness that I think some bloggers have for their success borders on paranoia, as if other bloggers are trying to pull them down. That American need to be “the best,” or in this case a “top blogger,”  is why I’d always quit sports when I was a kid. I have an ego, and I want to kick ass but I want others to kick ass too. What we should really be doing is building each other up! Isn’t that why we have places like IFB or blogs with blogrolls of their favorite sites or blogging conferences? Call me an idealist but I don’t feel like I’m in competition with other fashion bloggers, at worst we’re peers and at best we draw inspiration from each other. So where is the solidarity?

Seinfeld gif

  • pretendparades
    August 9, 2012

    i agree with this whole post. spread the love, people!

  • Jamie
    August 9, 2012

    I couldn’t agree with you more. It hard and frustrating at first to get the blog thing going. I am by no means a professional and don’t put enough time in my blog to be what I would love for it to be someday. And I too have the same theories on big bloggers vs little bloggers. But keep at it because I like what you post!

    And I love the gifs in this…especially Lafayette

  • Hollis
    August 11, 2012

    It’s funny I was thinking the same thing right as I came across this post. I came into the whole blogging “world” thinking it would be full of stylish people who spit rainbows and ride unicorns (to a much less extreme extent). But I’ve come to realize that the blog really is a representation of the person and sometimes the person isn’t so….spit rainbows-ish. But overall I still think we can all agree it’s a great community :)

    • Style & Cheek
      August 11, 2012

      Yes, I definitely agree. Overall it’s all about community – I was just surprised by the amount of of bloggers who think they are just…untouchable or very protective in a weird cliquey way.

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